True Friends

We are moved and mostly settled into our new home. Just a few more boxes to unpack - mostly filled with books and stuff that goes into our second room/office. We have invited all of our friends over this Saturday for a housewarming.

Of course there were a few bumps with the move.

Our friends A&L had company coming in from Edmonton for the weekend. We all knew about this for weeks. They kept saying they would try to find a way to still help us out, even if it was only for a couple of hours. Well a day or two before the move A bailed on us completely - and at least had the decency to text to send a text to my husband. Where he went wrong, is that he told two different stories as to why he could not help out.

We got told that his friend from out of town (whom we have met once before), did not want to spend his vacation time moving. Fair enough. All we were asking it that A, and just A, come over and help load.

Our other friends got told that A's wife L wanted to go to Banff with their friends. So of course A bailed on us and did what his wife wanted.

Problem is that we were two of the people that helped out the most with their move in June. It was a Thursday and my poor husband did not get to bed until after midnight, when he had to work the next day.

Also - L is immature and selfish and continues to treat her husband like her child. She "allows" him to do things (that exact wording), and always tries to find a way to get her own way. We are all tired of it and wish A could see this.

Well what ended up happening is that all of our friends helped us out. No one went over to A&L's house for their housewarming that evening after the move. Instead they came over and helped us unpack.

A's relationship with my husband is still strained, and L is still mad at him. What? Mad at my husband?

I look back and realize we could have handled everything differently - that A&L were kind of caught between their friends from out of town and us - but all we expected was a couple of hours of help because we had gone out of our way to help them.

So now L will most likely not be coming over to our place anytime soon. But then I can only think of a very few times (maybe 5?) that she ever came over to our old place - and up until June we lived just down the alley from them.

There is so much more to this. It's complicated and I do not even know where to start.

We did have everyone else over this past Saturday for J's birthday (the dad that just had twins). It was a great time - but it would have been nice if A&L would have made a brief appearance.

I guess we just know who our true friends are now. Sigh.

Packing and Stuff

We get the keys to our new place on Friday !!

I am so excited but there is also so much work to do between now and then. An old co-worker and friend of RW's came over on Sunday to help pack. Monday evening we were both so tired that all we manged to do was park our butts n the couch. Yesterday my husband got to go to a pre-season hockey game for free, but I did manage to do some dishes and pack two boxes.

So now is the push to get as much as possible done over the next two nights.

It will all be worth it once we are settled in our new home.

Television, Wings & Cuddles

Last night RW and I went over to our friends' house to watch the season finale of Big Brother 13 and eat some damn good food. L is a terrific host and she made curry celery soup, homemade biscuits, and pulled pork. Delicious! (except I missed the fact there was no coleslaw for my pulled pork, I love the mixture of the coleslaw and the pork on the bun). Then we had cupcakes for dessert. Yummy! (good thing I am weighing myself in for WW on Friday AM, lol)

I was happy with the outcome of BB13 - except I could see how Porsche almost won. No one believed me that it would be a 4-3 vote. They kept thinking that Adam and Daniele would vote for Rachel. Thank goodness for Shelley (never thought I would say that).

I loved that Jeff won America's Favorite Player.

Tonight we are going over to J&L's house. She is going to make wings (more delicious food). I will get another chance to cuddle with their adorable son & daughter. The twins were born 4 weeks ago and they are so cute and for the most part easy going.

Before we do that we are meeting up with our landlord to get our copy of the rental agreement and go over a few things and give the damage deposit.

I can't wait to move into the new place.

This weekend will be all about the packing and organizing and more packing. Fun times.

Eat Healthy, Move More, and Repeat . . .

Hmmm - looking back on my last post from June a bunch of thoughts run through my head.

- Why do I not blog once a week or so? I love to write and get the thoughts out of my head. I love to talk about myself. I really need to just blog more, simply because it feels good.

- Well my last attempt at getting healthy lasted a couple of weeks. I keep making plans and then not following through. I need to find some way to motivate myself.

- We are moving in 11 days. I am really looking forward to this. The new place is the main floor of a house with 3 bedrooms, 1.5 baths and an open kitchen/living room. There is loads of storage and a huge backyard.

- The weather has changed and now it really feels like fall outside. Cool and crisp. I actually love it.

- RW and I celebrated our first wedding anniversary on Sept 4. We had lunch on a patio, dinner out at a restaurant where we had our first date in Calgary. He got me a card, and a figurine, and flowers. It was great.

- Our friends had their twins and I have had the opportunity to give them lots of cuddles. They really are adorable and well behaved (which is funny to say, since they are only 3.5 weeks old).

- I need to turn my wanting to have a child into my motivation to lose weight. Sounds easy enough, but I have to get that light to click inside my brain.

I am sure there a bunch of other things I could comment on, but I will leave it for today. Perhaps this will make me want to come back and blog more.

Back on the Wagon

Well it took about a month - but now I am back to actually tracking my WW points and doing WW online. My husband is actually going to do the program with me, as he has about 40 pounds to lose himself. He was shocked when I told him his goal weight, but I told him to just take it one step at a time.

So our first goals are to lose 5% of our current weight - which is 12 pounds for him and 15 pounds for me.

When I weighed myself on Monday I was back up to 302 pounds, but I will not beat myself up about this. I have real motivation right now. Not only do I have the support of my husband, but I really do not want to get pregnant right now carrying an extra 132 pounds around. It would not be healthy for me or the baby.

I actually counted the points up for my husband and myself this morning for our breakfasts and lunches. Right now I am drinking my first cup of water (note to self, I need a new water bottle to take to work) and last night I went for a 20min walk. My plan is to go to swimming tonight.

I have done this before and I can do this again!!

Trying to Move Forward

I have been having a difficult time lately.

I stopped attending WW meetings, after I had lost 17.2 pounds. It has been hard to come up with the money for the meetings and pay down the dept we had from my husband being out of work for four months. As well as it was difficult to get to the meetings.

I want to try to do WW online (my mom said she would pay), but I keep enjoying all the good food at the various events of the past 6 weeks, and I never quite get back on program.

Maybe if I write it down here I WILL weigh myself on Friday morning and make up a healthy food plan for the week.

It has been a busy month and this will continue until June. First up is the Victoria Day long weekend full of plans and fun with friends. Then we are gong camping for two nights (May 27 & 28), and then on the 29th I leave for a sales retreat in Banff.

Our friends that are expecting twins are getting married on June 12. Our neighbours get possession of their new home June 17. The fourth couple in our group has a band and they are trying to release their first CD sometime in June.

When things get busy my eating habits are affected. I have to figure out a way to still eat right and exercise while enjoying my social life.

A little history

I have never been pregnant, never seen a positive pregnancy test, never even really thought there was a good chance I was pregnant (just a bunch of hopes that would crash down with temperature drops each month).

My mother on the other hand was extremely fertile. Unfortunately she had problems staying pregnant. Her incompetent cervix liked to dilate way before it was time to even think of those things. As a result I had an older brother that passed away at a week old in January of 1977, and a younger sister that passed away at almost a month old in 1981 (I feel bad for forgetting which month). My mom also had at least two 2nd tri miscarriages. She was dealt a crappy, crappy hand.

I somehow managed to make it to 31 weeks, and was born in October of 1977. I stayed in the hospital for a month, and other than my crummy lungs, I have no other long term effects.

My parents adopted their next child - my younger brother TJ - to continue with their plan of having 4 children.

When my mom got pregnant for at least the 6th time, she had her cervix stitched up, and my youngest brother was born the day after my birthday at 36, almost 37 weeks.

I really respect my parents for continuing to TTC and staying together while experiencing so much loss and heartbreak.