Friday, October 8, 2010

Happy Belated Birthday to Me !!

On Wednesday I turned 33 - overall it was a pretty great birthday/birthday week.

We had friends over On October 1st to watch the Oilers and Flames play preseason hockey. The Oilers lost but I got to wear my new jersey (an awesome present from my husband), and han gout with a great group of people until about 2:00am.

That Saturday, after sleeping in, we managed to buy a few groceries and then we just stayed home. We played a new game (also a birthday present from RW), and watched a movie.

Sunday we met up with our Calgary neighbours/friends again for breakfast. Then we went shopping (under bed storage makes me happy).

Monday after work we went out for an early birthday dinner at Boston Pizza.

So by then time we got to my actual birthday, I had already celebrated it a few times.

I actually managed to pick up some hamburgers to cook for dinner, go downtown and help prepare for a breakfast work event the next day, have Shaw over to fix the phone/internet signal, have birthday cake, and get our passports signed by our guarantor.

Yesterday, while I had to get up at 5:00am (and then slept in until 5:45am b/c my alarm did not go off), I got a nice free breakfast, listened to an interesting panel talk about business in Calgary & Alberta, got a nice free lunch and was only really at work for a total of three hours.

Today my husband and I got our passports sent in, they should be ready for pick-up on Oct 14, and they already called our guarantor and everything looks good.

So, it has been a busy week, but a pretty great one.

Friday, September 24, 2010

Wedded Bliss

Wow, has it really been 3 months since my last blog post?

Well I am now a happily married woman. The wedding was beautiful and fun and only had a few bumps that really did not matter at all.

Now I am trying to get my name changed to Mrs C everywhere and get organized for our honeymoon. We are going on a cruise to the Eastern Caribbean - specifically the Bahamas, St Maarten, St. Thomas, and Grand Turk - at the end of October. I am really excited.

It has been crazy around my home since the days right before the wedding. My in-laws arrived on the Wednesday, we traveled to Edmonton on the Thursday, the rehearsal was on Friday, the wedding on Saturday, the gift opening on Sunday, and Monday we traveled back to Calgary.

My in-laws stayed with us for another week and then we dropped them off at the airport very early on September 13. Then RW's best friend, CJ, who was the best man at our wedding, arrived in town this past Saturday (from Grande Prairie, about an 8 hour drive north). He was unable to get more time off around the wedding as he was finishing a project at work, and now he has 2 weeks off, and is spending 8 days with us in Calgary.

We keep staying up too late socializing with family and/or friends so of course I caught a cold.

All I really want this weekend is to sleep in Saturday and Sunday morning - for a very long time.

Wednesday, June 9, 2010

First comes marriage?

I don't remember when exactly we started discussing having children. I mean actually trying to conceive - not the conversations we had on our first dates about how we both want kids, and what we wanted to name them, and how many.

What I do know is that we were at a party at our friend AC's house, and for the first time we met GP's girlfriend/fiance. Somehow we ended up discussing how I wanted a ring, a wedding ring, on my finger before we got pregnant - and how RW really wanted to have a child, and did not care if we got married first.

By the end of March he had me thinking that having a baby, right now, would be great. I mean I started to think about it all the time and realized it didn't really matter if we were married first.

So April 1, 2009 I took my last birth control pill.

I had been on them since spring of 1998.

Maybe we need to go back and give a little medical history. I started my period when I was 11, and by age 14-15 the cramps were so painful that my dad (a doctor) got me some prescription anti-inflammatory drugs. A few years later and I would end up taking this combination of different over the counter drugs that let me function the first two days AF made her appearance on top of the prescription ones.

When I started BCPs when I was 19 - I remember thinking "why did I not do this when I was 16 or 17?".

I was worried that with going off the pill I would end up back in pain every month - but it actually was not that bad. I take an Aleve and maybe some Tylenol Menstrual - and I am fine.

I also used to have 35 day cycles before the pill . . . now . . . I am pretty much textbook with an average of 28 day cycles.

Ok enough with the TMI - point is I stopped taking birth control pills . . . and . . . nothing.


Tuesday, June 8, 2010

Living in Sin

So back in October of 2008 - RW and I moved in together. I love that I get to go to sleep every night in his arms and I don't have to drive 3 hours to spend time with him.

In December of 2008 we traveled back to his hometown - Sydney, NS - for the wedding of one of his best friends. I got to meet his parents and family. I loved it there, and I know, at least for me, that at that point I knew I wanted to marry RW and spend the rest of my life with him.

In February of 2009 we celebrated our first anniversary - and RW gave me a promise ring. He wanted to give me an engagement ring, but he was saving up money for the bling, and he wanted to have his divorce finalized.

Yes, RW was married once before. He was young, and in love, and he wanted to be a dad to her young daughter. They barely made it past the one year mark before they were separated. I could write a whole book about all the drama and lying and betrayal - and I probably will talk about some of it in future posts - but all I have to say right now is that it did not work out.

So back to February and March of 2009 - we started to look at rings. All I wanted was something simple and unique (in fact I even considered using birthstones instead of a diamond), that did not cost more than a month's rent.

Eventually I found something I loved. So, RW began to make payments on it in secret (which was very talented of him as we had opened a joint banking account).

Then we started talking about the future and having children and maybe having kids in the present instead of waiting.

This is where my broodiness began.

Thursday, May 13, 2010

A new city and a new job

Let us go back to 2008 again . . .

RW (my now fiance), and I continued to text, email and call one another everyday, multiple times after our first night together. Our first plan was for me to go to Calgary at the beginning of April. It began to feel like years away. So I actually drove down for two nights during Easter, and made it back to Edmonton to have Easter dinner with my family on Sunday night.

The back and forth between Edmonton and Calgary continued for months. Usually it was me driving down Friday after work (or Friday afternoon of I had the day off), but 3 times RW was actually able to either catch a ride or take the bus and make his way to Etown. I had a car, he did not.

Finally I got the letter about renewing the lease on my apartment with my BFF in August - and I came to the decision to move to Calgary. My current job was being difficult about transferring to the Calgary office. RW had already left the company, started a new job, got fired (for stupid reasons), and found a new job. So with little to keep me there - through a family member - I found a new job in Calgary.

In October RW and I moved into our place together.

Thursday, April 15, 2010

The love of my life

I am such a lucky woman to have a wonderful fiance like mine, I really am. He is in no way perfect, but I love him so much, that it does not matter.

We met through work.

His security company was taken over by my security company - and he started up the Calgary office. He was responsible for scheduling the technicians in Calgary for service. I was already working in the Installations department in Edmonton, which involved scheduling all the technicians across the country to install new/updated systems. I think we talked to one another on the phone almost everyday, at least once.

So we were co-workers, and work friends. Then in December of 2007 he came up to Edmonton (just as he had in 2005 and 2006), for our annual Holiday Gala. Something was different. Maybe it was the weight I had lost. Maybe it was the festive season. We kept ending up talking to one another that night, and even danced once (I fell on my ass trying to "get low", and his watch got caught in my shirt as he caressed my body).

Everything changed after that. We started sending numerous flirty texts and emails to one another everyday. Then at the end of February he was coming up to Edmonton for training, and he asked me out for drinks.

It was a great night. We had a couple of drinks, we shared fries with ketchup (which I insisted on calling vegetables since it was potatoes and tomatoes), and then I kissed him as we were walking back to my car. I drove him back to his hotel and went up to his room, just to "talk". Well let's just say that I didn't leave until about 5:30am the next morning.

The next day at work I was on the early shift at 7:00am - and I was extremely tired after not really getting any sleep the night before. All I really remember is trying to find just a few minutes alone with him before he had to leave. He kissed me by the elevator and told me that this was not a one night stand - and it wasn't.

That was the start of us.

Wednesday, April 14, 2010

In the beginning

Where to begin? I guess with a little bit about who I am and why I am blogging.

Hmmmm - well, I am a 32 year old woman living in Alberta. I am currently living with my fiance and we are planning our wedding. We are getting married in September.

A lot of my life right now is occupied with guest lists, and invitations, and decorations etc. I am really enjoying most of this process and I am excited about my upcoming nuptials.

I have been overweight for most of my life. At one point my tall, 5'9" frame managed to put on 336 pounds. I worked at it, and lost 156 of those pounds - and then life got in the way - and I am now 275 pounds, but slowly shrinking again.

I moved cities to be with the love of my life - and I really miss the circle of family and friends I had back in my home city.

A year ago (April 2009), the fiance and me had decided to go against the conventional order of things, and we tried to conceive a child. It didn't happen. We got engaged. I am still not back on birth control pills. I really want to have a child.

More about all of this (weight loss, weddings, and wee people) to follow.